Friday, February 25, 2011

想去又去唔到。。。

呢幾日Mommy 真係好Tire....

但係佢好想出去走走。。。

我明白有時都幾悶﹐成日要留向屋企....只希望快D 完晒成個Treatment processes, 可以出下街。

我要多謝碧姨星期三知道我有Show 要做﹐All the way 又Mississauga 過來Markham 陪 Mommy. Seriously, 多謝。。。。 !!!!

好喇﹐我要走啦。 Mom 好興奮去裝身﹐我哋去街啦﹗﹗﹗ bye bye...

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

5th Chemo (Feb 22)

5th Chemo:

Mom got into the CHEMO CLINIC around 9:15am. Yes. Today we were late. Mom didn't really want to be ONTIME heheehe!!! hehee! well.. I know... it is crazy.

Last night, when I asked Mom what time we should be there, the following was the conversation:

Percy: Mom, what time you wanna be there?
Mom: Well, I don't know. I should be there by 9:00am, what about 8:45am?
Percy: Mom, I will not drive that FAST for you as there will be lots of Police in the morning.
Mom: Ok... what about we leave home around 9:00am?
Percy: Mom, do you understand what I am talking about?

Anyway, Thank God for giving me a very smooth and safe trip to the hospital. There were just so many people ignored other on the traffic. I understand. They are not in the mood of driving when someone they know in the hospital.

Mom's veins were difficult to find. So Nurses was trying so many times.... Poor Mom... being poked more than twice. I felt so bad about that. However, Nurses still couldn't find it and end up They need ot put the HOT PAD on.

I unerstand how mom felt.

Anyway, after an hour, finally found the Veins and still working on the IV. Nurses were busy today as Monday and Tuesday patients combined.

Didn't want to talk too LONG... make it simple. We arrived at 9:15am and finished around 2:00pm.

Dear God,

Thank you for giving me another chance to go thru this experience with Mom. Please forgive me not having 100% patience with Mom. I was trying, but she was worrying something that she shouldn't. I was not handling things like that too well. Sorry about that. Thank you for your blessing. Seriously, Mom was worried, but you end up really take care of her one by one. I thank you. I am saying the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

Percy

Friday, February 18, 2011

Discontinue the Drug

Went to see Dr. Tepperman yesterday. Good that we had a talk with him. He checked and confirmed MOM really had allergic reaction to the Drug. He decided mom should not use that drug anymore.
As mom's perspective, she was afraid will delay the processes and effects how she attends my wedding.
As my perspective, as long as she is ok. She is ok... Doesn't matter about my wedding.

However, Dr. suggested to go back to the drugs Mom took in the past 3 times. He said the result would not have a BIG different.

I was agreed. She is going back to the same drug. That was good in a way, I know Mom won't really have much side effects but only tire...

Mom should be ok. She went to do blood test today and I am sure everything should go smoothly.

Don't worry. She will be fine!

When you have time, you can give her a call. Just a short talk won't harm her that much.

PS: Please don't mention about my prayer couple days ago. She doesn't need to know about my worries. I am ok. Thank you for your prayers and kindness.

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Draining out...

Dear God,

Forgive me not to talk to you earlier. Forgive me going through all those challenges without you. I am not counting you out. I need you, and you know it. I have been very depressed these days.

There are a lot of things happening recently. I am trying to please MOM as much as I can. I am supporting Ka Ho in all directions. I am giving my energy and time to help Kenneth's house closing. I am managing my wedding budget as well as my own family finance.

My heavenly father, I don't want to stress my Dad out as I should manage family finance better, but it seems like I am failing to do it. I am very sorry. Please help me. I do understand there is a lot of things I can't control. I am just trying to ensure my parents have worry-free in Canada side. Our new house is closing, at the same time, I need to clean up our current house, as well as making sure Mom is doing well. I am draining out my energy. I am lost in the money again.

Whatever mom can eat, I will buy it for her. You know I don't like wasting food. But however, I can't take too much carbohydrate in my diet. End up, there are number of food I have to throw them away. I really don't want to do it. It is very much NOT ME! Plus, Ka Ho is not home for food at all time... How should I NOT wasting the food at the same time, I really don't know. God, please help me... I don't want my family move to a new house BROKE. I really don't want to. Please help me to manage the money wisely. This is what you gave us. This is how you let me through ....

Please protect mom. Mom goes easy... she would eat whatever she wants... Please God, help us... help us... help me.... I don't want to think about it ... anymore... please hug me and arm around me... I am using all my energy to make Mom feel better...

Please God, give me some of your mercy... please... I really need it. There are so many nights I cried out LOUD in my bed... not letting Mom knows... I don't have a job to support... family ... People always think Dr.'s family should have lots of money. My Lord, they are so wrong, especially when the Dr always give out free of charge and free drugs to ..... God... please take away my anger... please do so...

In the name of Jesus Christ, ~Amen.

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Meeting the Dr.

Mom is still allergic to the Chemo drug. I called so many times to the Clinic and Dr's office. End up ... talking about waiting for hours and hours...

Mom finally got the appt to see Dr. on Thursday morning. Hopefully will be fine and not to delay the whole processes.

Whoever looking for us, please don't call... Mom doesn't really wanna talk.
I don't wanna talk bcoz I have been busy with Mom' Closely monitor her....

Time to stop. Very tired.

Monday, February 14, 2011

called Nurses and Dr.

Mom was getting nervous about her side effects. End up she had an adnormal bleeding last night. Getting too nervous, so I called the Chemo Clinic and Dr. this morning...

Wait and wait... and waiting..... waiting... finally the nurse called and said all side effects are normal. However, She suggests to have some "over the counter" allergy drug for now and report to the Dr. to the up coming Chemo.

Mom felt much better after the nurse called. however, she went to HSBC and had a good late lunch with me. She had the beef tendon with Noodle and a good cup of soy milk. You know what... I was so happy that she ate something she liked. Some people asked her NOT to have soy milk. But ... to be honest... Whatever she wants to drink, she just drink it... don't worry about it. ...

She had a good time for the short trip. Good Good Good...
=)

Friday, February 11, 2011

Allergic to Chemo

Finally, I found out why Mom had all those sickness. She is allergic to Docetaxel.

Side effects:
  1. Allergic reactions often occur. Signs of an allergic reaction are flushing, rash, itching, dizziness, swelling or breathing problems.
  2. Fluid retention may occur. Signs of extra fluid build-up area swelling of feet, hands or belly; breathing problems; cough or rapid weight gain.
  3. Nausea and vomiting may occur after your treatment. Most people have little or no nausea.
  4. Diarrhea may occur
  5. Fever may occur after treatment with docetaxel. Fever should last no longer than 24 hours.
  6. Sore mouth may occur a few days after treatment. Mouth sores can occur on the tongue, the sides of the mouth or in the throat.
  7. Rash may occur, mainly on the feet and hands, but also on arms, face or chest. The rash will generally clear by the time of the next treatment.
  8. Nail changes such as change in colour may occur. Rarely, nails will loosen or fall off, or the nailbeds will be painful.
Mom almost have them all except water retention and fever. However, family Dr. can't do much but giving her some reactin. I can't do much, but giving her something to drink and let her feel better.. but I will need to communicate with the Dr. on Monday.

So... DON'T WORRY EVERYONE! Things will go away and Mom will get better. I am sure... She already passed 4 times... why not another 2? Don't give her pressure or pity. She doesn't need it, bcoz she has God's love as usual. She may be physically in pain, but she is still in good spirit.

PLUS, don't worry about Ka Ho and I. We are OK. We have our lives (BUSY lives) and we are trying our best to work on the schedule in order to make sure someone stay home to take care of mom.

Anyway, this is enough for today. I am tired...

Thursday, February 10, 2011

What a brand new day

What a brand new day.... Very shinny out. I really want to take mom go for a walk... but talk about -10 degree and her condition. Better not. I don't want her to get worse.


I keep telling myself tomorrow is brand new day. Should have nothing I can't handle without God's help. I don't want to admit... but I do feel so guilty that I can't help mom a bit better. I can't share her pain and her uncomfort.

 I can't only tell myself. LOOK! IT IS SO NICE OUT! ANOTHER BRAND NEW DAY!!!


Dear God,

I am in my weak situation now. I feel that the world is so UNFAIR. I feel that there are so many people (no matter relatives or friends) are taking advantages of my Dad. I feel so uncomfortable about it. But Thank you for letting me talk to Kenneth and asking him to remind me we shouldn't care too much on the earth, bcoz there will be judgement day for Everyone. Dear my Lord, there are a lot of mixed feeling inside me now. I want to protect my parent, but there is no much I can do. I feel so useless. God, please tell me not to be so siu hay. Please let me feel comfort under your protection. I am not too sure how I should do but I just want to protect my Dad, my mom, my brothers, and Kenneth. There are a lot of people taking advantages of them. I can't do much. God, please love me to love those people. Please let me know how much you love them as well. I am so lost. I am so lost. My heavenly father, I really want to reduce Mom's pain by sharing that with her. I can't do anything... once again, I feel Human are so powerless. Please take those pain/ uncomfortness from her. You provide us the bright shinny sunshine and let them go into the house. I already felt how much you love us. Please let me do my job. Please let me love the people I should love. Please let me help the people/animals I can. God, I love you.

in the name of Jesus, ~Amen.

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Pain in the bone

(There is a time I can actually sit down with Mom and have the wonderful tea to relax, nothing I can worry bcoz there is nothing I can control)...


Mom is still the same... I believe this is bcoz of the 4th CHEMO DRUG, but not the flu or fever.

Her face starts to have some red spots, and she feels dry and itchy. Same as her eyes. I bought her the eye drops and make sure she drinks water...

She doesn't really eat much, but she knows she has to EAT! She doesn't want to delay the processes. She believer God has been walking thru all the past 3 chemos, HE won't leave her like that.

Right now, I don't really STOP her what she wants to eat, bcoz as long as she can put it into her stomach, that counts. I bought her the meal replacement milk. In case she doesn't want any solid food, she still has that.

In the meanwhile, I should make sure she is doing ok. I am trying to stay home as much as I can. Trying to make sure stop all the calls from Relatives and friends to bug mom taking rest. I have to make sure she eats/ drinks/ and everythings has to be cleaned. I am sure God is giving us the power to overcome the challenges we are facing. I am sure he is watching over us. I am sure he is taking care of us. I am sure...

Thx

Monday, February 7, 2011

Feb 7 2011

Mom is still the same, headache and not feeling well.

I believe of the new drugs, as well as the flu. On top of that, she still cares why that relative called and mad at her by not calling the elder for saying "happy chinese new year".

It is so non-sense that expecting a patient (a sick one) to call and pretend happy and say Happy Chinese New Year... it is so non-sense and so insincere. I already comforted my mom and tried not letting her thinking too much.

Anyway, Today, Mom is still "as usual" ... sleep, take pills, drink water, sleep... washroom break, ... , sleep....

She is really tired these days.

Hope she would be fine soon.

For those who is very worrying about my mom. Please let her rest. She will be fine.

If continuely like that, I will call Chemo CLinic tomorrow and see if I need to take her to hospital or not.

Don't worry, everything is taking care of. =)

Just don't bother me by calling me. If you have anything, just email me or leave your comment on here. I am trying to concentrate to take care of mom, prepare my wedding stuffs, work on my project and loving the people and the animals around me. =)

Love,
Percy

Friday, February 4, 2011

Who do you think you are???

 All pictures were taken in Mom's 4th Chemo.

She was ok.
















I guess people just like that... they even know Mom is sick ... still call here. Understand they are really worrying about Mom. But I do have a doubt, why didn't they call mom when Mom was healthy.

Today was 年初二﹐ Mom had been sick since 年初一... so she didn't call any elder for Greeting Happy Chinese New year. You know what? It is all about respects!!! There was a relative who called mom today. Once I picked up the phone, the first thing that person said was "WHY DIDN'T YOUR MOM CALL MY MOM FOR HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR?"

Why the heck did a sick patient need to make a phone call just to say HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR when she had a really sore throat??????????

Sorry my friends, I have to let it steam off! I was so mad! I am serious, I was really MAD!!! Of coz, I respected that person by keeping my anger inside. I was still talking on the phone just briefly... However, the more I told that person Mom was sick and needed rest, and the longer that person talking on the phone. Guess what? I was really fed up! I held my temper and told that person I needed to hang up and cut off the phone.

You may think I was rude to older... in some point of views, YES! I was! praised to LORD HE WAS WITH ME, or I would just yelled at that person and hung up.

Anyway, I gotta go I am very very tired today! I need to rest now!!!!
 

Warning: No phone call please

Please Do not call my Mom. She is very weak and sick these couple days. I will try my best update her status on here.

Please let her sleep. Please let your parents (if they used to call my mom as often as they can) not to call her (as they don't know about this blog).

I just want my mom take some rests. Thank you very much.

Thursday, February 3, 2011

Not feeling well

Mom is not feeling well... This is the first time. First time I heard she complained. I am worried about her.

I blamed myself why I had to leave home that LONG today. I left at 9:30am and didn't come home until 7:00pm.

Mom said ... she started feeling "fever" not too long after I left... then... she felt all BONE PAIN, even the join. I know the CHEMO is working on her.

She didn't eat much. Just Carbohydrate again... I was not happy. So I was trying to get her good nutrition instead of giving me excuses ....

I bought her some "ensure" type supplement. Hope she feels better.

Working all day today and worrying about mom... I am so tired...

Ka Ho is working on his school assignments and school projects till now... we are so late... late ... late... Hope didn't wake her up ...

Taking her so hard to sleep. Hope she really can have a good sleep.

Please pray for her.

Dear God,

There is nothing much I have to complain. You actually treat us very well. Finally, you are letting mom feel how uncomfortable being a Cancer patient. It is not easy for her, but at least I know the drug is actually working on her. Not too sure how it will go next time and the last treatment, but I am sure you are still walking CLOSELY and DEARLY with us. This is our blessings. Please take away Mom's pain as I don't want Mom to be a drug user. Please take care of her. Praying in the name of Jesus Christ. ~Amen

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

4th Chemo

Sorry to all of you ...

I am super busy with my Stuffs... I can't believe how busy I am today. working on my freelance project, running around for my own health, doing something for my wedding, searching different type of Options for my mortgages... so many things...

Monday (Jan 31)
Mom and I arrived to Hospital around 8:40am, Mom kept telling me that we didn't need to be there before 8:30am, but we had to wait for Dr. Tepperman to come one by one. Anyway, yesterday Dr. arrived Early. hahaaha! So... we were waiting and waiting... and waiting... until he came back, bcoz he passed us before we settled down.

Dr. came over and told mom and me that he was concerning about Mom's CBC level. last chemo, Mom had level 3.2, and this time she only had 0.95. Since the blood work was done last Friday, he wanted to do another immediate blood work before he confirmed to send us home.

Mom was worried. She was sitting there and thinking what exactly went wrong that it might be delay the Chemo. I told mom it was ok to delay a week, but Mom said she didn't want to look BAD for my wedding. Once again, that rethink if I should change my wedding date, Of coz Mom rejected it right the way.

Nurse Helen was gentlely doing the blood work for mom and leaving the STOP at the hole so Mom can do the IV. She said she believed Mom could do the Chemo. Time passed not too fast... Mom kept blaming herself... but then we figured it out what went wrong. Mom consumed a lot of Carbonhydrate (Noodles) in the past 2 weeks, she didn't eat much MEAT and VEGGIES. If body only has limited Nutrition ... that means... Metabolism will go slower... and and depends... how it divides the limited Nutrition.
(Sorry, didn't study well when i was little... this is my limited knowledge. It seemed make sense to me)

After an LONG Hour waiting... Finally ... Helen the nurse said Mom was OK to do.I asked for the #, wow! scared the heck of me... mom was 0.95 to 8.5!!! way over than 3.2 (3th Chemo) haahah!

New Drug, wow! Mom Became Drug user... She started to take 2 pills on Sunday (Avoid dizziness and vomiting), 2 pills on the Chemo day, and 2 pills on the following day. Beside this 6 pills, Mom needs to take 2 strong one from the last 3 Chemo. Then on top of all these... She needed to take 5 other pills before the Chemo drug injected into her IV... wow!! Mom is a pharmacy!

This new drug actually would burn her skin, so nurse put the gloves on her to avoid swolling from Mom's hands. bcoz of the first time, Nurse was taking extra care of Mom, kept asking how Mom's feel. Mom said she didn't like the gloves, they were too cold. So Nurse took them off from her. Wow!!! Mom's fingers became Frozen! just like the meat we put in the freezer, there was a layer of white icy snow on it. I was trying to keep mom's hands warmer, but end up Mom said my hands were colder than her! hahaah! That was true. My fingers were so cold!

The 1 hour Chemo end up 3 hours. Mom didn't need oxygen even nurse was preparing that for her. She was wondering how it would be. After we finished, I recognized how Mom's skin started drying right the way... I told her to put more lotion and remembered to bring Face cream on the road next time.

Every time, Mom wanted to eat Viet beef noodle, I was getting serious and tougher on MOM. I picked the place to eat. Haahaa! Guess where we went? Believe it or not, we went to Monte Carlos. This Hotel restaurant is one of the most famous place for ZAC brothers and sisters after Church Worship on Sunday. Not many people fighting the seats, but at the same time, I liked the food there. There were so many choices. Plus, the price was reasonable and affordable for a jobless person like me.

Mom went home after that and took some rests until Kenneth brought a fresh FISH and some Miced Beef for her as her dinner. heheeh! Of coz her favorite, Streamed FISH!

(Once again, I didn't have time to get the card reader, so the pictures can only sit in my camera. I will upload them later on this week)